Bullies are they born or made?

As a child, I was terrified of everything.  If I could have lived with the chooks in the back yard I would have.  They understood me.  I could talk to them for hours and they would nod their heads in agreement.

But of course, I had to be educated, clothed and fed so trips to school, back to the family home, to friends big and small, to town, to ballet lessons etc etc had to be endured.

The time when I met bullies were in my working life.  Authority, a huge fear to accommodate. Despite all my tools of EFT, Catherine Ponder affirmation, swallowing selenium my great love water, I still get the butterflies in the guts syndrome when having to face authority and the unknown.

Now as my 70th birthday approaches at the end of the year (oh wow doesn’t time hike) I look at the advice I would have given my small self.

If you want to hide with the chooks that’s okay but when you get hungry what happens then?  There is only a certain amount of apples and bananas you can eat in a day.  Your diet will have to be varied.  What about having a shower.  You don’t like being unclean, do you?  What about toilet stops?  What about that wonderful book by enid Blyton that has just been returned at the library and you have your name down for it?

So my little person how are we going to manage all the tasks that lay ahead of you?

Staying with the chooks is really not an option.

IMG_2238WIN_20170412_11_15_29_Pro I doubt if you could find the gun that you posed with as your adoptive Dad had them locked away.  And you can hardly lift the gun let alone shoot it.  There would be a lot of people to shoot.  A lot of blood. You don’t like blood.  Remember when you fell over and broke your tooth?  All that blood.  Yuk!

MMMMM so what do we do.  You have a lot of living to do.

Actually, on thinking about the lost opportunities in my life I have a revelation:  I can blame my wooseyness for not being an achiever.  Or can I.  That’s another EFT to look at.  What have I achieved, what do I want to achieve especially now I am looking for a job and nobody wants to pay me. I am a has been that never was anyway.  Oh dear tangent time.

 

 

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Jitter Busters

Amuse the mind-find some really great cartoons – search your local library for graphic magazines and laugh a lot.

Laughter is the best medicine.

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Anxiety Busters-Scrambled Eggs with dollops of garlic and onions

Healthy gut-healthy mind-I find that a good shot of protein can calm the anxiety symptoms, this may not be for everyone so discretion here. I am vegetarian trying to be vegan so when things get a bit dodgy I ditch the vegan & have a ‘shot’ of eggs. (with apologies to all the chicks!!

Please be conscious of what you are putting into your body!!  If you have allergies certainly follow your own diet.

Disclaimer:

This mentions ‘book’ but I am referring to this blog.  The information I give is purely from my personal experiences over a period of 55 years.

Sample of disclaimer for books by Alicia Dunams

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Anxiety Busters: The Big Black Dog Bit Me on the arse today. I tried a Band Aid

Karen Denby My Niuean Way

Band Aid was a distraction. Any distraction from the glugg is better than no distraction.

If you can get outside in the sunshine or even the rain.  Good to get moving.

I like to wash my hair on days when I feel like shit.  The vibration seems to start to dissipate if you have showered and put on clean clothes.  If you have been wearing the same clothes for days when you are in the glugg I feel the vibration follows you.  If you want to know more about vibrations.

I knew the black dog was circling a week ago.  It brushed against me and then finally today it bit me!

First stop – EFT – persevere with Brad as it at least helps to stimulate your lymph nodes

I try to find the cause of my glugg-it is really difficult sometimes to analyse.  The fact that you are feeling…

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Anxiety Busters: The Big Black Dog Bit Me on the arse today. I tried a Band Aid

Band Aid was a distraction. Any distraction from the glugg is better than no distraction.

If you can get outside in the sunshine or even the rain.  Good to get moving.

I like to wash my hair on days when I feel like shit.  The vibration seems to start to dissipate if you have showered and put on clean clothes.  If you have been wearing the same clothes for days when you are in the glugg I feel the vibration follows you.  If you want to know more about vibrations.

 

I knew the black dog was circling a week ago.  It brushed against me and then finally today it bit me!

First stop – EFT – persevere with Brad as it at least helps to stimulate your lymph nodes

I try to find the cause of my glugg-it is really difficult sometimes to analyse.  The fact that you are feeling like crap is that fact!!! No questions asked.  But I like to ask the questions.

What was the trigger?  Was it sudden?  Has this come up before?  sometimes it helps to know but other times it doesn’t really matter.

My trigger was to do with my self worth.  I am getting older by the day and realising my mortality.  I want to get a job and earn money but employers think I am over the hill…… (my interprestation) I realise I won’t be around when my grandkids get into their 30’s. (why can’t I just enjoy my time with them now)….. people look at me and just see ‘old’ (my interpretation), I have earned my senior certificate….. and so it’s goes on.

One of the things that helps me to wade through the glugg and see the dry banks is listen to music or radio nz. Plug in the earphones & ‘rock’ or get informed with rnz

My grandkids always keep me busy so that’s a wonderful way to get out of my head and into the physical as I amlearning all the time from them.

http://www.radionz.co.nz/radio

Write it out-just keep writing all the shit out of your head.  Roll it up and tape it up and hide it in your secret hiding place. You can throw it out after a few weeks or look at it again in 6 months to se if you have made progress.

Ironically, helping me to reach the top of the hill is naming all the dead people who would like to be alive although some like my adoptive mother and father would be more than 100 years of age.

Long gone but not forgotten:-

Mum, Dad, my two bro’s, Gail, Sarah, Aunty Charlie, Grandpop George, Aunty May, Jack, Aunty Mart, Uncle Norm, Uncle Geoff, Aunty Betty, Carrie Fisher, Debbie Reynolds, Sam Shepard, Anton Chekhov, Murray Ball, Baby Jane,
David Bowie, Gandalfi, Alan Rickard, Tom Petty, Jackie, Terry, John, Royce, Helen, Vivien Leigh……and the list goes on and on….so I am thankful to be breathing!!

A pet is always a lovely way to take yourself away from yourself.

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And of course if the black dog has bitten so hard and you need a ‘shot’ go to your GP and get referred to a professional psychologist.

 

 

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Anxiety Busters-Deepak Chopra & Mantra

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Anxiety Busters-When all else fails

Find the triggers to your anxiety.

eg. Sad News, Argumentative people. Confrontations. Watching sad movies. Watching world news on tv. What are the triggers?

AND what I think is so important – not eating.

It is known that gut health is so important.

What have you eaten today?  Is there anything that seems to give you a gut ache or make you more ‘windy’ than usual.

Keep a journal of what you eat-also note the moon phases-is there part of the month that makes you feel better or worse?

Analysing and researching yourself is very interesting. Let you be the guinea pig.

Healthy foods that should be kind to your gut-unless you have allergies-these are suggestions-not a given-you know your body-make healthy decisions.

Bananas, Fish, grains, fruit, lots of organic veges – you know already.

To help you through the day.

 

 

 

 

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